5 Signs You Have Emotional Trauma (And How To Heal)

  5 Signs You Have Emotional Trauma (And How To Heal)

Whoever said sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me forgot about emotional wounds. ever stop to wonder why that forgotten birthday still hurts,  even though it happened many years ago, or why you still stay awake at night wondering why someone backstabbed you in high school?

those are emotional wounds that have not healed. unlike physical wounds, they aren't visible, and we don't have a surefire simple bandaid for it. the good news is that healing these wounds takes a few different tactics that we may not have thought about before. so, let's go through how to recognize that you need that emotional first aid kit and how to use it.

 Number One, Being Alive, But Not Living.

Sure, being alive can be clinically spelled out in cold terms. your heart is beating,  you're able to remember your name,  you can perform work functions, you eat food, and you sleep at night, but living is different.  it's when you follow a passion,  do fun things, and do anything outside the bare necessities. maybe you've lost a loved one, and since then, you felt undeserving of happiness, so you cut yourself off from all these things and before you know it, you start living in survival mode. you're alive, but not really.  step back and look at the situation, and understand that you have a right to grieve,  to be angry, to be hurt.  connecting with others can help you understand that living your life is not causing these things to happen.  you may, in fact, find that not living your life is in fact hurting those around you who are still there for you and care about you.

 Number Two, Being Disproportionately Angry

 Emotional wounds are wounds.  when wounds are still tender and raw, a breath of fresh air can feel like fire.  you know yourself, you know what normally gets to you,  and when you start getting angry at things where two seconds later you think, what was that all about, why did i yell at them,  that's a sign of a possible wound that needs attending.  you might not even be getting something directed at you.  you could be looking at random paint colors and suddenly you're sobbing. You're not losing your mind.  It's your emotions trying to communicate to you, saying,  hey, you have some processing to do so we can get to healing.  It likely means that there's something that hasn't been fully acknowledged and dealt with.  It may be perceived as embarrassing,  or you thought you were done with it.  But if you're still emotionally everywhere,  perhaps it's time to take a second look and acknowledge these emotions.

 

Number Three, You Can't Stop Replaying

the situation over and over.  admitting the situation and talking about it is good.  you have to admit that it's there for it to be healed,  but if you keep talking about it without direction or purpose and on repeat, it's gone from helpful to harmful.  so, when talking about the situation or assessing it, always ask yourself,  what am i getting out of talking about it?  is there something I still don't understand that will help me move to the next step?  and ask yourself honestly if you are repeating things because you are denying what you already know but hoping to get a different answer.  this is not closing a wound, it's reopening it and undoing all the hard work you've done before.

 

Number  Four,  Self-Growth Stunted by Fear.

 

part of living or experiencing life is continuing to grow, learn and reach out.  being heard emotionally can make you hyper-aware of other intense emotional opportunities.  for example, if you were in a harmful relationship, you may stop getting into relationships where you feel deep emotions,  but you're robbing yourself of the life you deserve if you do this.  you deserve to learn and grow despite the ups and downs that have come. it's normal to fear the unknown and the "what if,"   but having the courage to grow anyhow is worth it.  we're not saying, don't fear, because that's inhuman.  it's how you deal with it that matters.  understand your fear and recognize that the bad thing is not the only option that will happen.  recall, remember, and recognize all the factors that are on your side.  realize that these factors exert just as strong a force as anything else.  do what you need to to give yourself the best chances possible.  it could be having a backup plan,  or it could be a different approach from the one taken before, but you can do this.

 

And Number Five, Sleep Schedule.

 what sleep schedule?   have you been losing sleep, even when you haven't been down in caffeine or stay-awake meds?  if so, something is going on emotionally.  ironically, getting good sleep is one of the things that will assist with healing that wound.  so, tackle this by getting yourself an honest-to-goodness routine.  that's right, sleep prep.  here are a few suggestions to get you started making your own personalized routine.  no food or electronics one hour before your goal sleep time. meditate to calm and quiet your mind.  sip some warm tea with natural calming agents like chamomile. sleep helps your whole recoup.  persistence and courage are required to heal emotional trauma. many of us can agree that emotional trauma cuts deeper and last longer than most physical injuries. with something so complex,  it's easy to feel like we have no choice but to hurt forever, but that's not true. if we can choose to put in the time and the effort,  we can choose to heal, and we don't have to do it alone.  to navigate this journey,  it's normal and even encouraged to speak to the guidance of a seasoned professional.  you are worth the time and effort.  don't rob yourself of the best life you could live.  how do these points resonate with you?   please feel free to comment and discuss any methods you've tried or things you're puzzling over.

 

5 Signs You're Traumatized And How To Heal It

 

The Shadow Side Of Successful Individuals

  Do you often dream about success?

what do you see in those dreams?

 perhaps it's having lots of money, luxury cars, and a good career.

 

you might even look at someone successful and wish you could just switch places with them,  thinking that they have it all.  but take a closer look and you might find that things are not as they seem.

 

success can come at a great price.  so in this video, we will be looking at the dark side of success.  number one, loneliness.  sometimes when you just focus on chasing success,  you may end up finding yourself alienated and alone.

 

while your friends and family are having lunches and dinners together, you may be working on an assignment or a report. when they're off going on trips or to the movies,  you may be working overtime to meet deadlines. ultimately, when you pour  all of your time and energy

 

into work, you may miss out on building connections with the people around you.  in time, you may even find that you don't have many people to turn to when things get hard. so no matter how mesmerizing it sounds to be ultra-successful, keep in mind that it could end up being a pretty lonely time.

 

Number two, is greed.

 

how much money is enough? staying humble when you are becoming successful

is a challenging job.  over time, greed can take over and you may find yourself not  Getting enough of everything,  whether it's achievements, money, or praise. this might sound like persistence, but chasing more than you need can make you fall into that dark hole of success.

 

slowly you may even come to realize you don't like the person you've become. worst of all,  you might realize that you're chasing the impossible because no matter how far you get, it would never be enough.

 

Number three is anxiety.

 

when you finally become successful, what do you think becomes your worst fear?

it's probably to fail and lose it all.  because of this, your days and nights might be overflowed with worries about the future.  what will tomorrow look like?

what should I do to guarantee my success?

how can I secure what I have even more?

 

thoughts like these can make your mind anxious,  sometimes to the point

of developing symptoms of an anxiety disorder.  sleepless nights, heavy

breathing, and racing thoughts.  for many, it comes hand in hand with success.

 

Number four is envy.

 

when you are dreaming of success,  how do you imagine people

close to you would react?

 

you probably think your friends and family would be proud and happy for you,

and the ones you don't know so well may be impressed by your hard work and achievements.  even though that scenario is possible, many successful people don't get such nice reactions.  what they're often faced with is envy.

 

this can mean people talking behind your back,  saying how you didn't really deserve what you have or that you got it by pure luck.  they might try to turn more people against you or even sabotage your efforts.  so it's not all glamorous.

 

Number five, jealousy.

 

The Shadow Side Of Successful Individuals envy and jealousy can go both ways. while there might be people who are jealous of you,  you could also become jealous of other even more successful people.

as a result, you may come to see everyone as an enemy or threat to your success.

this tendency to compare yourself with others and to feel as if you've come up short can end up making you a bitter and angry person,  which may ultimately cause others to dislike and avoid you.

 

And number six, physical issues.

 

finally, apart from emotional problems, success could bring you physical issues too. restless nights and constant worrying can make you more prone to insomnia.

constant stress and anxiety from work may also lead to a loss of appetite, habits of overeating, digestive problems,  and even a change in appearance, such as getting wrinkles or gray hair a little bit too soon.  are you willing to pay the price for success?

The Shadow Side Of Successful Individuals